You’ve heard it said that one man’s trash is another man’s treasure? Then I’m sure we can all agree that these were two very different types of men; one tossed it out because of its imperfections and the other man took it in and loved it for the rest of his life.

And therein is the answer to whether something is pornographic or not. Where do you draw a line in the sand? ISIS will stone a woman for showing way too much of her curvy, sweet sexy ankles; at the same time another religious zealot in Rome pays young girls to show him their curvy, sweet sexy ankles. One of them gets off by demeaning women and the other jerk just gets off.

But just to be fair, women too like to get their groove on. After all sex is how we all got here, except that Jesus guy, and if you believe that Adam and Eve, then you’re just too naive for words.




Sex makes the world go around. Birds do it even this Bee in the Bonnet writer does it. Your mom does it and your dad likes it – so get over it already – sex happens.

Getting back to pornography, porno better known today as porn – my guess is that sometime in the future it will simply be referred to as P – whatever it’s called it makes trillions with a capital T. No pun intended; but there are some big bucks to be made in sex.

P isn’t just a recent thing either, although bringing the internet into the privacy of your home was a huge reason it grew so big so fast. P has been around for a very long time – I’m sure there was some monkey who drew something rude in the sand and his buddies went wild until the momma monkey walked in.

As a writer, I think that research is the key to getting things straight, and I intended to get to the bottom of this subject. So I whipped out my keyboard, and had barley pounded out the word porn when my computer blew up like a Vegas slot machine. Not only are there way too many sights to see there are way too many kinds of kinks; from bald head fetishes to toe kissing, and every orifice in between, from the very young to the very old, and in every shape, size and color.

The sex industry is growing in leaps and bounds, and the money that some of these ladies demand is amazing. It’s no wonder both men and women flocking to P. What other job can you name where you don’t need an education, the hours are as flexible as you are, make big bucks and as an added bonus you get to do something that you love – over and over again – until your eyes roll into the back of your head?

Even though sex is the oldest profession in the world, and there was supposedly a sexual revolution back in ’69 – very little progress has been made. Women are still exploited, beaten, rated and berated like a dog. I attribute these hindrances to little old men with very little foresight, very little insight and very little else.

I hope that one day there will be such a thing as make love not war.


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